Alright, so I know my boyfriend needs his time to himself. And I can respect that. I want him to be happy. However… It gets a little annoying when he ignores me to play video games. Lately, I’ve taken to sitting on his lap while he plays, or on the floor next to him, because it’s the only way to feel close to him while he plays.
Also, he was supposed to see me on Tuesday, but he didn’t come because I wasn’t feeling well and he didn’t want to get sick. Normally, I would be fine with it… Only I had insisted on seeing him when he was sick, and even offered to care for him and make him home-made soup. However, I was willing to write this off as me being selfish.
To top it all off, we had a ‘romantic evening’ last week… He paid for dinner, and I paid for the movie… Then he took me to a comic book store to play Magic the Gathering with strangers. I wanted sex, but by the time we got back to my place he said he had to leave because he had work in the morning… We got home late because he was playing a trading card game in a comic book store with strangers… instead of having sex. >_<
So tomorrow is the only time I’ll see him this week, and the place I’m going to see him is Gaming Club… Which means he will briefly say hello to me, hug me once, and then I’m going to be stuck on his lap while he plays a video game. A video game that he owns, no less, and can play at home any time he wants. (Good game, but that’s beside the point)
I have to wonder… Am I being too needy, or should I be getting more attention from him?
Just to be clear, no, I’m not going to break up with him over this, and I’m fairly certain he doesn’t want to end it, either. x) I want to talk things out, and I want to make sure I’m not being obsessive/selfish/needy.
Oh, and something I forgot to add: He has hardly any sex drive, and I have a ridiculously big sex drive. He’s started using sex as a system to reward ‘good behavior’ from me, and withholds it to punish ‘bad behavior’. Does this seem… wrong to anyone?
To answer someone’s question, yeah, I do make it REALLY obvious when I want sex. Usually, I give him very subtle signs, like rubbing up against him, getting naked, or saying, "Hey, we should have sex." Usually all at once. xD
To me it sounds like he should be paying a bit more attention to you. When he’s consistently ignoring you, or taking you for granted, you have every right to want some attention.
Likely, this is a phase. It might be a long phase, but it’s still a phase. He’s very comfortable with you, and doesn’t feel like you’re going to leave him if he’s not the perfect boyfriend. This is a good thing. How he’s behaving because of it is not.
You have two basic options. Insist that if you only see each other one day that you do something you can do together instead of going somewhere to play video games. Or, you can start playing the games and kick his butt at them.